An old maxim that can be found in both children’s poems and ancient wisdom writings asks that you ask yourself a few simple questions before you speak: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
While I don’t necessarily think it is necessary for every communique between two humans to be kind or necessarily necessary (what is necessary? I talk about vapid stuff a lot.), it has been my experience that it is best to follow another old maxim when speaking up — “Pick Your Battles.”
When you complain or rant all of the time, the effectiveness of your complaining or ranting dwindles drastically. Instead of complaining, you should seek solutions to problems and then present a solved problem versus just adding your voice to the larger cacophony of the unhappy and unsatisfied. This way, when a situation comes up you need to complain about because there is no solution you are capable of implementing, the complaint is viewed more seriously based on your “can-do” spirit in other situations.
This is where you have a hill to die on. Your voice should count and be treated with respect, and you stand firm until it does and is. In short: don’t dig your feet in too often, but when you do, wear cleats.
And ranting? Save big rants for the big things…too point out injustice, bad behavior or to solve the world’s problems. Save your little rants for your friends and tortilla chips and salsa. Avoid tirades without tacos.